Hello everyone, welcome back to a very very late blog post. I started writing this down probably back in March but never got to finish it since I was too busy with school assignments at the time. My schedule is somewhat more flexible for now and I thought that this could be a good opportunity for me to share with you some small tips that help me go through some hard days, you all get some of those I am sure. I was very skeptic on posting this, because admitting that I am not happy with my life at the moment is not something easy. I am very private with my personal life despite of what my instagram profile might project (probably not just mine). Lately I have not been feeling myself, I lack of inspiration, confidence and patience. I feel like I can't catch a break, I am not optimistic at all and I struggle to get out of bed most mornings. What I keep saying to myself is that things will get better.
Nobody's life is perfect. We all battle with life. A lot of times when we are feeling down we focus so much on things that we don't have or things that we haven't done, when there are probably a thousand things we have achieved. Be grateful for what you have.
The number one tip that comes to my mind is that you need to set small and realistic goals. Your life is not going to dramatically change over night. You need to keep your head up, work hard, dream a bit, and most importantly be patient, something that I am not most of the days. This must have been the hardest year for me so far. Luckily my school days are over, well almost cause I still have to complete my thesis, and it is something that has been holding me back from doing other things, such as traveling.
I don't know about you, but if I don't make the bed after I wake up, the day just doesn't start right. At this point it is part of my routine. No matter how bad my day is, at the end of it I still have a laid bed to comfort me. It also prevents me from leaving the house messy in the morning (Goodbye procrastination!). Normally I' m such a Monica (couldn't resist mentioning my favorite series; F.R.I.E.N.D.S), and I can't stand a dirty dish. Cleaning is really calming for me and it offers me some constructive time alone with my thoughts.
Another thing that has helped me a lot, and I probably did mention that before, is to write things down. Anything. On a notebook or on an agenda, or even on your phone, start writing things down, your plans, your goals, your dreams. Make lists, it will make a huge difference, it did for me. Everyday I write down the things I have to do for that day, but I also keep track of some longterm goals and things I want to do, e.g. get my driver's license (yes, sadly I still don't have my license).
Exercise. Even if it is an hour long walk. Put your earphones on and your favorite music and walk. It is calming. Also another thing, that you probably hear a lot, is to eat healthy, which I probably didn't do that much this year but it is always good advice. Food has a lot of impact on my mood, I started noticing it when I added more vegetables on my diet. And I also try to cook my meals by myself so that I have more control over what I am eating, because I am such a couch potato, and probably if I am not in the mood I will order pizza. Let me tell you, I had a lot of pizza this year! I am trying to break such bad habits.
Get out of the house more, spend time with your friends and family. I am definitely trying to do that more. Like I said I didn't have much free time this past year cause I was working and studying for my master's. The day feels a lot fuller when you do activities. Correct me if I'm wrong, but nobody made memories by staying inside and watching Netflix. The real world is out there. I know that after a hard day at work all you wanna do is to sit on your couch and eat pizza, but having a productive day also means to spend quality time, outside, getting some fresh air. Enjoy the little things in life. A cup of coffee might bring you joy.
And last but not least, talk about it. Whether that is your boyfriend/ girlfriend, your parent, your sibling or your best friend. Advice is always welcome, and you will probably find out that someone has been in your shoes before. Luckily I have an amazing boyfriend who has stood by me in dark times, he has been to hell and back for me and he always tries to cheer me up. The world seems so big when you have no one to share it with. And I can't forget all the times that my family was there for me, especially my sister Alexia, who raided the stores with me (*purse cries in distance*) and made me laugh (she is drop dead funny), and of course my mum, my number one, who always has my back.
Hope this was some helpful advice. Share your thoughts with me. Maybe also give me some inspiration by telling me what you want to seen next on my blog.
See you soon,